Noella Bergener advised Page 6 in an exceptional new interview that her estranged partner and spouse of five decades, James Bergener, is trying to “torture” her by stalling their divorce.
“There’s a whole lot in divorce which is about handle and micro-handling and type of wanting to torture the ex,” the “Real Housewives of Orange County” star, 36, stated. “There’s a tiny bit of that at engage in going on below.”
Noella — who shares 2-yr-outdated son James Jr. with her ex — went on to express hope that James, 50, will shortly achieve “a happy position in which he does not experience like he requires to search at the previous and assume about controlling me.”
“RHOC” viewers have viewed the Bravo newbie’s authorized fight unfold onscreen. At the start out of filming, James fled their Orange County mansion for the couple’s residence in Puerto Rico.
It wasn’t prolonged prior to the particular damage legal professional — regarded across Southern California as “Sweet James” — “blindsided” Noella with divorce papers from the Caribbean, penned in Spanish, covertly served to her in a pseudo-floral supply.
“It was really surreal,” she recalled. “I could not imagine this was occurring to me. I had to pick myself up, nevertheless, and by the grace of God we finished up creating a bit of development, figuring out settlement information alongside one another.”
Noella — who said she and James ironed out an agreement in September — discussed that her spouse has due to the fact ceased his communications, indefinitely delaying the legal approach.
“It’s incredibly disheartening,” she said, declaring that James is demanding additional custody of their minor boy, who is autistic and requires extensive therapy in Orange County.
“A male who lives in Puerto Rico is asking for 50/50 custody of our 2-year-outdated son who he’s not viewed for 6 months and who necessitates … several hours of treatment for his autism,” stated the mom of two, who also mother and father daughter Coco, 7, from a former relationship.
“We go a single stage ahead and 10 measures backwards.”
In the wake of their break up, James allegedly lower off Noella’s accessibility to their funds, save for a credit score card that can only order essentials by way of Amazon and groceries from Instacart. Once her settlement ultimately comes, Noella — who has claimed she is “squatting” in a 10,000 square-foot residence — feels confident that she will be ready to provide a very good existence for her family.
“I observed a house that I could move our little one to,” she claimed. “I could downsize, I could be in regulate of my have finances and we can just be completed with this … Unfortunately, it doesn’t search like there’s any close in sight any time before long.”
In the meantime, Noella is taking steps to obtain financial independence on her individual. Making the most of her fact Television set notoriety, she is quietly working on the launch of a brand name named Playland. Although the sex-dungeon fanatic has but to detail its perform and services, she has teased the enterprise task as a position “where grownups appear to participate in.”
“I actually do consider there was something in [James] that imagined as soon as he still left, that I would slide apart and that I would not be in a position to go on and I would just operate soon after him or give up on this option [to appear on ‘RHOC’] simply because I’d be also humiliated to be sincere about what is going on,” she said.
Noella — who manufactured heritage as the initially black and overtly bisexual female to be forged on “Orange County” — stated that she was emboldened by her co-stars and new close friends, Shannon Beador and Gina Kirschenheiter, to speak overtly about her encounters on digicam as her tale could aid some others dealing with related issues.
“Something I’ve acquired by means of this process is as shameful as this was, it was not my shame. That’s his shame,” the design asserted, who also named James “cowardly” for allegedly deciding on not to stop by his son in the 6 months due to the fact they’ve separated.
“I’m not embarrassed to converse about my divorce. I’m not embarrassed to chat about our challenges simply because I’ve carried out very little improper and most girls in this place should not be sensation that disgrace or humiliation.”
Noella mentioned that her role on “RHOC” turned her preserving grace as she navigated the early times — and crippling devastation — of James’ unexpected departure.
“In quite a few methods, the clearly show genuinely assisted. It aided me get out of mattress. It served me know that, ‘Damn it, I’m well worth adore and I’m worthy of far better than this. And there’s other gals who are likely by this as well and this is silly,’” she claimed.
With her phone calls and texts to James unanswered, Noella mentioned that she feels her “only line of defense” is speaking to the press.
“I want to accelerate it… The reality is the real truth,” she stated. “He still left. He states he would like a divorce. I want a divorce. We have agreed on all the challenging areas of the divorce. Let us be divorced. Let us do this. It does not make perception. I actually want it and if you truly want it as well, then let us finalize this.”
James’ legal workforce did not promptly react to Web page Six’s ask for for remark, but he claimed in a Jan. 5 statement to Us Weekly, “A choose in Puerto Rico, wherever I am a resident, has presently granted our divorce. In the long run, Noella is the mother of my youngster, and I will not publicly disparage her.”
As Noella waits for her relationship to be dissolved in California, she is reveling in her new romance with a thriller male she understood in the course of her partnership with James.
Noella is hesitant to expose his identify she’d like to preserve their privacy as prolonged as doable. Having said that, she instructed Web page 6 that he is a “nice guy” and “a breath of contemporary air” from the “toxic” marriage dynamic she had grow to be accustomed to.
“I am dumb with like proper now!” she enthused. “We’ve acknowledged each individual other for yrs, only as friends, but we strike the ground functioning on this one. As quickly as James was long gone, he was like, ‘How are you doing? How are the young ones?’ He was accomplishing people checkups and snuck on in there.”
Noella more gushed, “He just would make me happy. He’s brought so considerably joy to my lifestyle. He just supports me. If I have a issue, he’s bought a remedy.”
“The True Housewives of Orange County” airs Wednesdays at 9 p.m. ET on Bravo.